In our society we have been raised to believe that in order to attract a woman we like, we have to go out of our way to impress her and present ourselves as a man who the society tells us is a man that every woman wants. So we go on dates and have this ritual in order to impress the woman we like. On the other hand, the woman immediately goes into the “buyer mode” and plays her role of assessing whether the man taking her out fulfills the criteria of the perfect security provider.
This is because men were raised to believe that if a girl likes you for who you are, she must be too easy. That means that we think that we are never good enough for a woman that is god for us. So we start playing these games.
All this is ingrained in our minds by our society conditioning. What truly makes us happy, however, is connecting with each other without any of these games. To look at each other and see the human being that is behind all those layers of social brainwashing.
Some men throughout history have realized that what women really want is a man who is comfortable with himself and will not try to impress her, but confidently lead her to what she really desires. They understood that they will take whatever the woman is up for and will not judge her for any of her decisions. They realized that if the woman likes them right away, this is because she has a good reason to do so (since he knows that he is a pretty attractive man).
In this day and age, men like this too exist. Johnny Soporno is one of them.
Johnny tells that a man who still believes in the paradigm imposed by our society might think that if a woman wants him just because she likes him for who he is, she must be too easy and something is wrong. He then will unconsciously try to postpone the advances of the girl (by say taking her number instead going home with her). What he does not realize is that he has just rejected the woman on her most primal level, he has rejected her sexuality and in our society women have been taught that this is her most valuable asset. Hence unconsciously she thinks that if the man rejects her sexuality, she is not good for anything. This is the biggest insult for a woman. Of course this is an irrational thought that is the result of an irrational paradigm that our society imposes on us.
If men were to understand this issue, much pain would be avoided and we could live happier lives.
What I explained here is only the tip of the iceberg and has to be explored in further detail.